How Dating Apps Have Ruined Dating !!
Dating apps are very popular nowadays especially with the youth and with middle-aged men & women.
But as quoted by Uncle Ben “with great power comes great responsibility” (sic), just like that we quote, “with great technology advancements comes great connection lost with your surroundings”. Dating apps help you find the person you want to date, or find you a person you want to build up a friendship, but eventually everything is done online and hardly only 30% turn offline. Some are okay to have someone online but, the true meaning and purpose of life will be missing, as in the long run one always needs a companion other than just pleasures or whiling away time. To my case study, technology and the internet has connected people with long distances, but at the same time made close people farther away from each other.
- Dating apps give us too many choices, and ruining our chances of finding love:
Dating apps may help us find love but also makes us further away from love, as you keep getting more and more choices and your mind just wanders off and you start to think to yourself why should I settle for just one partner when there are plenty of fish in the sea? This sort thinking is actually harmful in the long run and at some point must be put to a stop.
2. Dating apps makes one more looks-obsessed:
Apps aren’t just making the dating world more volatile. They’ve also steered us to care more about looks. Dating has arguably always been about physical attractiveness at first, but there are many other reasons couples are drawn to each other in real life, like the same sense of humor or the weird quirks they share, the movies they like, how their eyes light up seeing a puppy. A person is so much more than their looks.
Most people now aspire to date someone who is 25% more desirable than themselves, suggesting we have become more picky that we used to be.
If everyone’s punching up to such a degree then the number of messages sent out on dating apps and met with stony silence suddenly make a lot more sense.
It’s sad because you can’t get a sense of who someone really is from a mirror selfie that they have posted and a witty bio about how much they like to travel. Equally, you don’t know if you’re discarding your perfect match as defective, simply because you think they look a bit short on their profile picture because you never know that the picture which one posts over their profile might not be their good picture or bad one, sometimes people eventually miss out the most golden opportunity to meet their soulmates just due because of bad looks on the other hand blindmeet actually helps you to find your soulmate according to recent observation in the northern states of India.
3. Myths of fairytales look good in fairytales only:
So, it’s not hard to see how dating apps are an absolute minefield for this type of thinking. It’s full of people holding out for a fairytale, all the while stepping over the frogs waiting to be kissed.
Let’s say you have been dating someone for a week, and it goes on till months, even after you both dating each other for months long too you guys won’t know each other all that well. You might be texting or calling each other on a regular basis and you might like each other, A LOT!, but the lack of time spent in the same room puts up a barrier. Time plays such an important role because time is what makes one go far away or come very close that’s why one should spend a lot of quality time to deepen the relationship that’s why for some, this is a sign the relationship is going nowhere and there’s no “spark,” so they end it all due to the less frequency of spending time. But no frogs are going to turn into princes without a bit of work, like the saying goes ‘nothing good comes easy.’
For the people who like things on the go and or people who just go with the flow and like the easy way to deal with things, it’s the butterflies or nothing. By that logic, the poor people who end up dating them are in with no chance from the get go.
It’s not all hopeless though. Everyone knows at least one couple who met on Tinder or Bumble, instantly hit it off, and are now living with each other. They might even be married. And good for them. There are exceptions to every rule, and there are always going to be tales of ‘the lucky ones.’
4. What can happen if u spend a lot of time on these applications:
Hackers can take control of your life – They can:
- Hack you camera and have a tab on you
- Listen to your private talks
- Send you irritating notifications
- Gets to you your location
- Even create a fake id of yourself
- Get all your payments history and details
These are dangers that you should consider when on dating apps. They can really mess up your life in more ways than one.
5. These apps can even change your self-confidence
Yes, dating apps make it easier to find someone, but they also make it easier to get rejected over and over again, some take it in the sporty way, it is casual to some but some take it seriously and that affects their life, outside of this virtual world too. That can really mess up with one’s self esteem and their self-confidence just shoots down.
Online dating used to be only for the shy people who didn’t have luck going out and meeting other people and help them get a partner, but now online dating sites and dating apps are overrun with people who have very good social skills and are not looking for a shy person with low confidence, I’ve heard many users complain about getting rejected over and over during a specific course of time, and they usually feel worse than when they started using the dating app. That rejected feeling will affect all areas of your life, and it will affect your future ability to get someone offline, the outside world away from all these virtual dating apps.
6. You can attract some really bad user experience:
I’m not just talking about finding you a man or a woman that you think is great, but turn out to be completely different than you expected. I’m talking about attracting the wrong kind of users that will result in an unhappy relationship and a breakup not long down the road, as your grandma always said ,”one partner can make your life or destroy it completely” , a wise advice which is very true even when if the advice is ages old, choosing the right man or woman who will be by your side , help you get out of you problems, be with your through the happy times and through the sad times, be the go-to person you have in your life, is a life-partner. So it is very important to have choose your partner properly and not in a hurry.
7. One may simply loose the value of trusting a person
Lying online to get more likes has become the latest trend. The user will want you to think they are what you are looking for, so that will lead you to think that u have found the right person. They may lie about their age, weight, looks, work, or what not. They will most definitely choose the best picture possible for their profile, which means that there is a high chance that they look different in real. But that is just how the rules go with them as per the looks game. After you finally meet the person you feel none of things you thought they were is not true and being lied to over and over again, you may start to distrust people as betrayal is one thing to come out off for anyone as it affects one’s heart and can cause mental pain too. This can affect you in all areas of your life, and it can definitely affect your future relationships, this is some serious problem one must look into it.
Well definitely not saying that one should not use dating app, but the number of success stories of people finding love online are less than the number of heartbreaks people have endured through online dating.
There are so many people out there one can meet, there is a general belief that people are truly themselves when the conversation is face-to-face. Why have we stopped meeting people in real life? Why have we started to depend on online websites than actual real-life meetings?
How good is it to trust a person by the profile picture they have posted along with some catchy captions rather than the person they are in real, through face-to-face conversations. It is easier to talk and lie over the phone or through texts.
Let’s stick to the roots of how love was found earlier, through actual meeting. Meeting over for coffee, meeting someone at a party or meeting them through a mutual friend. Let the medium of finding a partner differ but the way you meet them be through actual meetings in real-life. The success rates of such are a lot higher.