How to survive a friendship ‘Break-Up’ ?
Best friends the most underappreciated beings of this world, friendship break up is the worst stuff that can happen to two people other than getting PTSD from a harmful relationship that cost them all the feelings in the world. But this break up in a friendship scenario is there at the top, friends drifting away after school or after graduating from university is different from this, these breakups make u feel way worse,” Imagine being so emotionally attached with a person that you share every ounce of your life experience may it be good or bad or traumatic in a way and this best friend is the person that is your go-to person who you speak all your important and personal stuff now imagine fighting with them and being apart from the person who you share all the stuff that happens to you, one day you are good friends the other day, you are just two strangers who know too much about each other, and you go spiraling down on all the good times you had with that person that kind of hurts more than love breakup, love is different but the people we call as bro or bhai are more of a family. These are the people who we consider to be friends like family.
A million memories passing by as people ask if you knew them and all you can say is that you used to know them is an experience that can’t be put into words is a very painful experience,
“Friendships causes heartbreaks too..” a quote by author Wolftyla is a pointful explanation on the fact of a friendship breakup. This world might be filled with people to the brim with days passing by without the person you don’t want to share your experience with is a total immeasurable burn of itself, some people move on but some don’t and this calls for desperate action, of asking people to come back or in some cases depression to level of treatment as it has become more and more normal these days to say the least.
From the time of Akbar and Birbal to the time of 3 Idiots and F.R.I.E.N.D.S we all know the importance of friendship and the importance of having a true friend.
A friendship can start in a park at five while playing hide and seek or during a walk at fifty five.
Whatever the circumstances maybe but when it hits rock bottom and comes the end the gruesome pain in the same.
Many knew that Shah Jahan built the Taj Mahal for Mumtaz as a symbol of love but it’s a true symbol of love and friendship they shared throughout their life.
Friendship break up causes equal or more pain than a relationship break up. Many boyfriends/ girlfriends may come and go but there will always be only our best friend to whom we can rant to and who who will save us from the many calls our parents make while we are out making memories with our beloved one and help us sneak from awkward situations that we have experienced as a child, to us friendship breakups then was when our best Friend refused to share their toffee or lend an extra pencil to write ,but as we age the friendship turns out to be a fine one like wine.
And when they have a clash and end the friendship whether it be for years or months it creates an impact on both the souls.
There is a quote which says a friend in need is a friend indeed and the claims a friend is someone who will always be there with us throw our thick and thin as flesh and skin.
And when we fight with such a person and end the relationship it’s like a blocked road without knowing where to go.
To whom to lean on to whom to lend a shoulder to whom to cry , to whom to share the inside jokes.
Fights happening between friends are common but inserting the ego and waiting for the other person to talk first will become toxic for both and that’s when the real doom enters .
Friends may break up because of betrayal from one among the two and that’s a valid mark cause a friend who betrays is more traitorous than an enemy.
But nowadays most friendship break ups happen due to the distance and insecurities of best friends finding someone new and replacing them with another new friend they found in their office , college , schools .In this scenario the relationship starts to grow apart without being intentional and creates ruckus due to lack of communication.
And when it comes to surviving a friendship break up it can be hard but not impossible .At times we need to end toxic friendships too.Too many feelings will be involved without a shoulder go cry on but that will teach you what the real world is .While ending a friendship do it in a mature manner so it gives you the satisfaction of being a mature person.
After a friendship breakup give yourself a pep talk because no one can make you feel better except your own self in the mourning stage.Like social media we can’t block our ex-best friends from our minds so let us accept that they are real they were a part of our past self but not anymore and it’s for the betterment of both.
Talk about your feelings to someone close. Venting about the issue will give you peace of mind and a closure stating you have someone else to lean on during a tough phase who will listen to you when you are low or in need of a shoulder to cry on. This is the right time to get yourself a new best friend with four paws and a wagging tail to shower you with kisses and to listen to your random rants.Travel to someplace you haven’t visited with your bestfriend to make your heart understand that there are more places to visit that you haven’t gone with your best friend and this world is a beautiful place .
Dress up and Show up!
Don’t lock your selves inside four walls , go out there have the best time of your life with your self cause no love will ever be greater than self love .Befriend your own heart and mind and have a party of your own for ending something that is not meant to last till the long.Find yourselves hobbies that keeps your mind out of loneliness like drawing , writing , reading books , traveling etc. And understand this break up has paved a way for you to bring something new because nothing happens without a reason so understand that and learn your lesson and improve your self.
Spend time with your other friends instead of isolating yourself thinking you don’t have friends anymore.Stay out there listen, talk and evaluate yourselves .Don’t try to force yourself Into your ex-best friends life cause you feel lonely or sad .That doesn’t help in any way.
Write your feelings down in letters instead of going back to the same person who is not good for your life, body, soul and mind.Start focusing more on yourself.
Try to improve your characteristics and evaluate what went wrong in your previous friendship and try your maximum best to change that.Change your social media posts.If you have a photo with your best friend and you that evokes feelings inside you take that down for your own good.
Last but not the least accept that there is no more you and them, that there will be no re-connection and move on with being putting your best self forth.
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