Why Online Friendship Isn’t The Best Thing To Do
Friends are the most under rated beings on earth. Everyone has friends, at least one to start with. The one kid we went to kindergarten with, one kid we went to pre-school with or the kid we went for our skating class or drawing class or the kid we graduated high school and even that kid we stayed up all night finishing our assignments with cups of coffee to stay awake and just somehow managed to finish college ! All this just makes one take a walk down the memory lane, ahhh the good old days. Wish we could just go back and re-live every bit of it.
But times have changed SO much and we have evolved so much as to how we make friends. Earlier we used to be friends with people we met in real life may it be it in school, college, work or through mutuals. Since the internet came into existence the whole concept of friendship has changed and the term “Online Friends” has come into existence.
Online friends are those we make through various social media platforms, we wouldn’t have really met this person in real. Maximum interaction with them would have been a video call ( in case you are not being cat fished or talking to a fake profile ) An online friendship begins when two people bond and have things in common, just like an offline relationship. The friends may share photos, email each other, or chat on the phone eventually.
We know nothing about these people other than what they want to show or say, yes.. not every person you meet online is bad but not every person you meet has to be good either. There are so many cases reported each day for cyber bullying, harassment, people misusing your identity, photo or video leaks and what? Have you ever wondered why all of this is happening ? It is because we TRUST too easily, we buy all the lies being sold to us.
There are pros to making friends online too, like say making friends online as I see it, is the excessive amount of people online. You are sure to find at least one person who matches your interests, and it is often a lot easier to approach these persons if you are shy by nature in the real world.
But is this reason enough to share every bit of your personal details, stories and lives to someone you have met ? There is always this uncertainty with people online. People are known to be deceptive online and are known to carry malicious intents. You have to keep your guard up and follow safe internet behavior, which is not always easy, if the counterpart is very charismatic. Furthermore compared to a person you meet in real life, your online friend is able to disappear without a trace over night. It is even easy for them, as for the better or worse, you and your friend carry no actual responsibilities toward each other, Getting too attached to an online friend might leave you disappointed. Basically you get ghosted and it sure is hard to get in touch with a person or get to know about their whereabouts when you haven’t met them in real life.
You may also find yourself online or using the phone way too much, which isn’t the best thing to do. There is so much to do outside, you may have friends who you can meet in real life and hang out with them. It also gives a lot of strain to your eyes, makes you lazy and less active too. Sitting straight on your laptop can also give you back problems at a very young age.
You create an imaginary virtual world away from reality – You tend to get submerged so much into this web os virtual world that yo fail to live your life to the fullest. One tends to alter information online like say you may be an average student but claim to be the smartest in class, you may be a mediocre looking person but editing and filters may make you look like a runway model.
People impersonate who they are not – We all would have come across ‘fake profiles’ at least once in a lifetime. People catfish a lot these days which means they take up someone else’s personality as their own. Claim to be someone who they are not. And lie online. This is the worst thing about making connections online. There is a Netflix movie called Sierra Burgges is a loser that glorifies this practice of cat fishing. Sad.
Threat to fall in traps – There are a lot of “BAD” people online. These people may extort money from you in the name of friendship and abscond. They may even blackmail you with your personal information. That is cyber crime is at the rise. A lot of girls specially teens fall into traps and get depressed. All because they believe the lies that are being said online.
No means of physical contact if you need it (like an in-person hug). – Can’t do some of the activities you can with in-person friends (grab lunch/coffee together, give each other a lift to somewhere, etc.) –
Less commitment/responsibility than an in-person friendship. Theoretically, you could always log out of the Internet and never log back in or only show up like once every few months or so without any real consequences, whereas for in-person friends, you need to take the effort of meeting up in person every so often in a way that doesn’t conflict with anyone’s schedule…and you understand that you might run into them at a time when you weren’t prepared to or planning to somewhere like the grocery store (although: some might see a friendship with less tie-downs and obligations as a pro). – It’s easy to come across as one kind of person but Be another on the Internet, so if you actually do run into your Internet friends in person, there’s always a chance that they won’t actually be anything like their online personas, which can be disappointing. – People often feel like they can be more blatantly rude and disrespectful on the Internet, and while the friends you make on the Internet may not be rude/troll-ish/spam-posters, you’ll probably have to sort through a few such people to find your Internet friends.
But regardless there are some good people out there and it is easier to open up to people who are not in front of us and it does help us kill time.
That is why blindmeet app gives a push to help people meet to create and develop connections on the long run. It is a lot more more easier to judge someone once you meet them and rarely go wrong with the decisions that are made to either stay in touch or lose contact.
It is high time to start meeting people and make real connections.