Social Networking Sites Do Not Deepen Friendships
” A friend in need is a friend indeed”, haven’t we all heard the saying. Probably because it is the most oldest saying about friendship.
We all know friends are people we hangout with, to whom we share all our history, right from our kindergarten stories, to us forging our parent’s signature on the test that we have failed or let’s not forget about our high school crushes to our work stress. They know it all. Friends are those who know all secrets with and also they are the ones who call out our names aloud in front of our crush. Oh, so embarassing. Just thinking about all this takes one down the memory line.
And there is no necessity to even about the lunch breaks, it was when our lunch box got emptied even before the break had started and we don’t get to eat what was packed for us and end up eating our friends lunch. It always tasted better.
Friends are those to whom we throw all our tiny tantrums at, who we show our mood swings to. They know everything about us, they have seen at our best and our worst.
And the most important thing is that we know they have our back to lean, who to turn to when things get bad and out hands, also these are the people who hear the best news from us, who we go running to when whatever happens good or bad. They say the first person who comes to mind when the best or worst things happen is either your best friend, someone you love or the closest in your family.
And this aspect alone can deepen the friendship and lays a foundation of trust and create an aspect that we are not alone and we have someone to share our happiness and struggles with. But is it the same with the friends we make through social media sites?
The friendship we make through social media sites go beyond countries, races , languages , religions ,traditions and culture.In these sort of friendship or networking two people do not get the opportunity to meet each other but develop a bond which is uncertain to a level.
Social media helps us get to know people but not who they really are.
The friends we make through social media may or may not portray different characteristics in real life. According to researchers the texts we send through social media tend to be more vulnerable than the answer we give through personal meets. Hey! Its easier to talk through a screen than look at a person and talk.
Social media helps us to get acquainted with people but not befriend them for a life long.
Relationships last long only when there is a human element, that is meeting happens. Yes you can be great friends who genuinely care for each other and be there for the other person but meeting them, having to look into their eyes when they talk are very mandatory for friendships/ relationships to last.
Social media friends have also proven to decrease our chances of having real life friends because the effort we take in a social media website differs from the real life situation.We lack self-confidence to make real life friends who could help us in our real life problems .Rather we make social media friends who may not know what the real problem is and can’t be available through the issue to help us find a solution.
There is a difference between the friends we know in real life and get connected with them through social media and friends we make through social media and get connected there.And most people prefer texts over call due to social anxiety so most prefer making friends through social media where people do not expect anything else much rather than an occasional “hi bye’s”. Not like it is wrong, but to each their own.
The friends we make through social media’s do not get to share our happiness in real life and even if they do feel happy all they can say is “I’m happy for you ” through a text which does not consist of a 1000 watts smile displayed by our real life friends. This is what the backdrop is, the human element is missing. Its hard to express your feelings virtually.
The occasional words we hear from a friend, “the first time we met I thought you were an idiot” is the time you know you have created a friend for a life-time and the friendship has climbed a step higher in the ladder.But via social media sites we do not get to know the person in real life but only through texts and the way they say they are.
In social media anyone and everyone can be friends without any bounds , rules or regulations but they do not get much closure as well.While in real life friendships we have our occasional fights cause our best friend gave importance to someone else or for some silly reasons cause we want to fight with them.
Like it was said earlier, who else do we show our mood swings to?
While texting social media friends the tone we use and the tone they imagine might vary and it can also cause drifts in the friendship.A social media friend might have been busy at the time you need them the most or you need someone to talk to and the Friendship will gradually come to an end due to communication issues.
But with the same scenario with real life friends is that we know they will lend us their shoulders to lean and ears to listen and mouth to profuse encouraging and motivational words. With hands to hold us together.
With social media friends you may not have the chance to feel a hug so close that can make your heart warm Or the gesture through eyes and body language when your crush is nearing or to hear the glass shattering laughter while you crack lame jokes.A social media friend cannot be there for us to share our misery while we are having a mental breakdown or to share our happiness while we succeed to hold us and keep us grounded except occasional paragraphs as messages.Social media friends cannot take care of your pets while you’re out of town and gets to eat food prepared by your mother .Social media friends do don’t get to make fun of you for your voice and body language or can imitate your characteristics in a gathering.Social media friendships also have the risk to end quicker than a real life friendship when a conflict arises due to no contact in real life and high ego rates.Social media friends can easily exit from your life with a click of a delete button in their social media account.Relying on social media friends is a bit riskier task cause we never know if they’ll be available or not In a serious circumstance.
With social media friends we tend to lack depth in the friendship due to not knowing about them In person.
As a saying goes “Having 4000 friends on Facebook whom you don’t share intimacy with cannot compete with a one true friend you have in real life”.
Social media friends can only know us through the words but not actions and when in need of an emergency they’ll be put into a situation they can’t help us or be with is directly.We may not know the person to whom we share our secrets to are trustworthy or good at holding a person’s secret the trust factor is very important to deepen a friendship which has less chances to happen through social media.
Through social media we may get 1000’s of friends but the prospect of finding a genuinely real friend is at the chance of 4℅ .
“It’s not what you know ,it’s who you know” People tend to possess different characters in texts and real life and it’s most probably like two different persons in a single human.Our text boxes have immense messages when in reality we lack a true soul to rely on.Social media friends scripts the whole world into a single page which decreases our chances in making real friends and creating life changing moments.
Blind Meet helps people to meet in real life and creates a situation for relationships to be born.